For Anyone Who's Ever Gone Through a Relationship Breakup or Divorce...

Here's How To Stop Your Pain, Let Go Of The Past and Heal Your Broken Heart After A Relationship Breakup or
Divorce...

Dear Friend,

You are here because you are heartbroken, you're hurting and want to know how to heal from your break-up with the person you really loved and cared about (perhaps more than anyone) ...

We're Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins and we want to help you heal your heart, stop your pain and help you recover from your breakup so you can create the life that you want.

In your situation, you probably have a million thoughts going through your head right now and in order to best help you, we'd like to ask you a few questions that you've probably been thinking about...

How long will it take before this excruciating pain I'm feeling ends?

Was my time I spent with him or her totally wasted?

Will I ever love someone like this again?

Does this mean I'm a failure at love?

Does this mean my one chance for love is gone?

Will I ever be able to open my heart to someone else again?

When he (or she) said "I love you," I thought it was forever and now I don't know if I can ever believe anyone again. Is this normal?


If you have been thinking about anything even close to these kinds of questions about yourself and your situation--then believe us when we say that you are not alone.

This is normal and these kinds of thoughts are real and at some level they need to be honored.

It's also important to know that you have to deal with these questions, feelings, thoughts and emotions that come up for you in ways that actually help you heal and that's what we're going to help you do...

How We Healed From Our Past Relationship
Break-Ups and How You Can Too...

As we mentioned earlier, we're relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins and we've been together since 1997. Even though we are married, still together and have a great relationship, we totally and completely understand what you're going through and what you're feeling because we've been there.

Before we got together (and certainly long before we became relationship coaches, authors and speakers), we both went through painful break-ups and divorces. Susie was married to someone else for 30 years and Otto was married to someone else for 15 years. 

We'd like to tell you our stories about what we went through and how we were able to heal from all our pain to show you how you can too...

 Susie's Story (in her words)...

"I saw the break-up of my 30 year marriage to my previous husband long before it actually happened but when it actually happened, I was devastated. For many years, the two of us had drifted apart, almost leading separate lives. I took a lot of workshops and trainings that didn't interest him and I wasn't interested in hanging around his new friends. We just wanted to live our lives differently.

"Together, we decided that our marriage was over but when the actual time came for him to move out, I was so afraid and upset that I almost couldn't breathe. A few days after he left, I remember rushing outside to lay in my hammock because I just couldn't get my breath when I was in the house alone. My thoughts and fears would get the best of me and even though I knew it was the best thing for us to separate, I was truly frozen with fear about how I was going to maintain the house on my own and that I might never find someone else to love and who would love me.

"I felt so alone--more alone than I had ever felt in my life. Because I married as soon as I graduated from college, I had never lived alone in my entire life. I remember going to work in a daze and somehow getting through the week but when Friday evening came, feeling so alone and unloved that I didn't know where to turn--even though I had a lot of friends. But they were married and I wasn't or wouldn't be much longer. Although they were understanding, they really couldn't understand what this loneliness felt like to me.

"I felt like everything in my life had been turned upside down and I didn't even know who I was anymore.

"I spent several months after my ex moved out worrying about him--whether he was taking care of himself, his new living conditions and how he was emotionally. I went over and over in my mind how we might have done it differently and re-living the "good" times. I guess it was easier thinking about him than how lonely and unhappy I was.

"My friends were all on my 'side' (even though the split was mutual, my ex was involved with someone else) and I found myself playing up the martyr role and actually liking it. It was easy to take the sympathy of my friends and continue talking about how he did me wrong by leaving.

"I remember the day vividly when it all shifted. I was standing in my living room and the single thought came to me--'What about me? What do I want for my future?'.

"It was the first time in many months that I thought about what I wanted for my future. I physically turned my body in the direction I thought was my future and just stood there. No earth-shattering vision of my future came to me, but what did come to me was the inner-knowing that for the first time in many years--maybe forever--I could envision what 'I' wanted and then take steps toward it.

"It wasn't too many months after that day that Otto and I came together and started creating the magical relationship we have now. I know in my heart that if I had never started saying 'yes' to me and to my happiness that my magical relationship with Otto would never have happened. I had to start thinking about my future and what I wanted while making peace with the past.

"Did this happen overnight? No, of course not. Making peace with the past, clearly knowing what I wanted for my future and then opening to it happening was a gradual process. But I decided I was worth it and I decided that I was going to make the changes that I needed to make in myself so that I could attract and keep the love I wanted."

Otto's Story (in his words)...

"When my previous marriage of 15 years ended I was lost.

"My son was 8 years old at the time and telling him about the divorce was the single hardest thing I've ever had to do.

"After the break-up, even though I am a man, the pain was so great that all I wanted to do was cry, go back to bed or distract myself somehow from what I was feeling.

"I had just started a new job and thank god the job I had was one where my boss was two hours away. It was just me and one other woman that worked in my department and we were basically on our own with no one checking up on us. 

"This was a good thing because I was grieving so much that not only did I not want to work but I couldn't focus or concentrate on even the smallest of tasks when I tried.

"Since the woman I worked with was moving soon and would be leaving the company and the area within a couple of months, she wasn't too interested in working either so I would spend all the time I was "supposed" to be working talking to her about what I was feeling and how much pain I was in.

"As I think about how I felt in the days, weeks and months after my previous marriage ended, I alternated between feeling sad, angry (lots of anger came up), feeling hurt, and confused. To be honest, there was even a desire to make my ex pay for what had happened, even though I knew that the break-up and all these horrible feelings I was having were not just her fault.

"In addition to losing the woman who I thought I would be with forever, I also got to find out who my true friends were.

"Some of best friends (friends I had had for years) betrayed me and wanted nothing to do with me after my break-up with my now ex-wife.

"In some ways, all these years later, I still grieve the loss of those friendships. Some of those friends that didn't 'understand' were people I had been friends with since I was in the 3rd grade in elementary school and had been through a lot together.

"Luckily, I had other friends who did help me though this dark period in my life and I also reconnected with my family who I had become somewhat distant from. Reconnecting with them helped give me a feeling of stability and gave me strength that I could go on.

"I did a lot of other things to heal after my break up as well.

"I prayed, meditated and read every book on relationships and healing I could get my hands on.

"I also went to counseling and found that to be really valuable in finding and accepting my part in the break-up. I learned how to make peace with all the pain I was feeling."

"All of this helped me to get ready for creating the great relationship Susie and I have now."

As you just read...

We both went through a lot of difficult times in those dark hours, days and weeks after our break- ups AND here are some important lessons for healing that can help you ...

As you can probably tell..

These breakups of our previous marriages affected us very deeply in very fundamental ways.

When our previous marriages broke up, we each searched for a solution to pain, the upset, feelings of unworthiness, isolation, anger, resentment, uncertainty and betrayal that was inside of us. 

You can probably now see what we eventually found out--that all these gyrations that you put yourself through after a break-up or divorce are just the ways you are trying to ease your pain and move on.

After the two of us got together in our relationship, we made the decision that we were going to do everything we could possibly do to make sure you (and everyone else we could reach) would never have to go through the pain and heartbreak that we went through.

This is one of the reasons we eventually decided to become relationship coaches.

It's also the reason we wrote and created our "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" book and audio program.

If you want to discover some of the shortcuts we've learned to healing after a break-up or divorce, continue reading.
 

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Now That Your Partner's Gone and
You're Alone, Here's How To Deal With All The Pain That You're Feeling...

One of the best ways that will help you to heal from your break-up or divorce is to learn how to deal with your negative thoughts and out-of-control emotions that come up over and over.

They are actually keeping you in pain and believe it or not, you can learn to change them so that you can function better in your daily life.

We're not talking about controlling your thoughts.

What we are talking about is acknowledging your thoughts and emotions and then consciously changing them.

Impossible?

Not at all.

Maybe you have a toddler in your life or if you don't have one right now, you remember what it was like. You might remember diverting the toddler's attention whenever he or she was about to do something that might cause injury or pain.

You might have diverted the toddler's attention with a toy or something else that he or she might enjoy.

The point was to re-focus the toddler's attention toward something that was more desirable than the "dangerous" activity that he or she was focused on.

The same is true for you when you are feeling like a "victim" or "martyr" and it's keeping you stuck in the past--or you are deeply into blaming either yourself or your ex for what happened and that blame is holding you back from the life you want.

While you never should discount your feelings, you can begin to choose which ones you will focus on and which ones you aren't so that you start to feel better and move toward your healing.

The 3 Minute Break-Up
Pain Stopping Technique

Here's a very simple technique that takes 3 minutes that you can practice anytime you start to feel overwhelmed by your fearful, angry feelings and negative thoughts.

Use this technique when your negative thoughts and feelings are keeping you from functioning in your daily life and you want to shift them to more empowering ones. Negative thoughts and feelings can become a habit but they can also be changed.

1. SIT--Sit in a quiet place. (The bathroom will do).
    

2. SETTLE--Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, bringing your breath into your feet so that you feel grounded and connected to the earth. Feel yourself slowing down and your breathing deepen. (Maybe 30 seconds)
    

3. AWARENESS--Come into awareness of your negative thoughts in this moment. (What exactly are you thinking? Example: "I’m thinking that I'm a real loser when it comes to relationships.")
    

4. ASK—Ask yourself if you know your negative thoughts to be true—absolutely true. Can you find evidence to the contrary? Chances are you can find somewhere in your life where your thoughts cannot be substantiated.
    

5. ALLOW—Bring your attention to your heart or gut area and feel the sensations in your body. (What are you feeling in your body? Is there tightness, a big knot, emptiness, heaviness?) Allow your sensations to be there without judging them and breathe into that area of the body. (If you feel heavy in your heart area, breathe into that heaviness until the sensation softens. If you felt a knot in your gut area, breathe into that knot until it starts to loosen.)
    

6. REPLACE—Replace the limiting, self-defeating “movie” running in your head to one that is more in alignment with what you want in your life—because the reality is that both outcomes are possible. Run this new movie whenever you feel your negative thoughts coming up in the future. (If you know that your negative thoughts aren’t true but you see yourself alone forever and in pain, replace that "movie" with one that could happen that you'd like much better. See yourself taking your next step in an empowered way instead of the damaging cycle you find yourself in.)

Practice this as many times a day that you need. Keep a copy of it with your phone in case you are tempted to call your ex. Put a copy in your car to remind you to stop yourself before you drive by his or her new living situation.

This is what we show you how to do in our "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" book and audio program...
 

What you'll learn in our "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" book and audio program, you can get over your break-up or divorce.

Here's what you'll get when you order a copy of our "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" Book and Audio Program ...

This book is arranged in three sections that correspond to the healing process for getting over a breakup or divorce. 

These three sections--"Healing the pain," "Letting Go," and "Moving on"-- are made up of the top questions from a recent survey we conducted with over 1100 people responding.

In answering these questions, we include stories from real-life people who wanted to share their experiences with healing from their breakups with you.  We've also included a fourth section of resources to help you on your healing journey.

When you order "How To Heal Your Broken Heart," you'll also get...
 

6 Audio  Recordings That Show You How To Get Over A Relationship Break Up or Divorce AND How To Move Forward To Creating The Best Life Possible After Your Break-Up or Divorce...   ~Available in Your Choice of Audio CD Format or Instantly Downloadable mp3 Format Here's What You Get With These 6 Audio Recordings...
Audio #1 On this audio recording, Susie and Otto Collins give answers to "The 10 Biggest Questions About Healing After  Relationship Break Up or Divorce." You'll learn about why you may keep failing at relationships, how to keep past hurts in the past, how to get over guilt, and much more. Listen to a sample (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins
Audio # 2 Otto Collins Interviews Dr. Steve Taubman On The Strategies For Getting Over a Break Up or Divorce Steve is a speaker, workshop leader and transformational teacher, as well as the author of the book "UnHypnosis." In this  session, we talk about strategies for healing your heart and creating the life you were meant to live after a relationship break up or divorce. Listen to a sample (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Dr. Steve Taubman
Audio # 3 Otto Collins Interviews Drs. Laurie and Jon Weiss In this interview, with Laurie and Jon Weiss, you'll discover the secrets to moving into and past your grief, dealing with anger, codependent relationships, clearing blocks and much more. You're going to love this interview. It will be very helpful in your healing journey after a relationship break up or divorce. Listen to a sample (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Drs. Jonathon and Laurie Weiss
Audio # 4 Otto Collins Interviews Therapist Leslie Karen Sann On Forgiveness.  In this interview, you'll discover the power of forgiveness, how to forgive yourself and others in your life and why forgiveness is so important in creating your best life possible. You'll learn Leslie's unique 4-step process for not just forgiving others, but forgiving yourself as well. Many important insights here... Listen to a sample (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Leslie Karen Sann,  MA, LCPC
Audio # 5 A Relaxing Visualization By Hypnotherapist Beth Jordan No matter how long it's been since your break up or divorce, this simple relaxing visualization can help you reduce the intensity of any pain you may be having.  By taking a few minutes to listen to this recording, you'll be able to loosen your way of thinking. Listening to this recording can also help you get unstuck and give you a feeling of more possibilities for your life.  Listen to the Introduction of this recording    (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Beth Jordan C.C. Ht.
Audio # 6  Relationship Coaches, Susie and Otto Collins on "The Secrets to Opening Your Heart to Love Again after a Relationship Break up or Divorce." Opening your heart to love again after a break up or divorce isn't always easy-- but on this audio recording, we show you some amazing shortcuts and give you some key insights that many people have found very helpful in opening their heart to love again, especially after a relationship break up or divorce. Listen to a sample (Turn on your speakers and click the arrow above)	Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins

Here's a partial list of what you'll learn in the brand new book and audio program "How To Heal Your Broken Heart"...
 

• 10 steps to healing from a relationship breakup or divorce
   

• How you can avoid staying stuck in your pain after a break up or divorce
   

• What you should do in order to heal when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, your ex or your relationship that ended
   

• The REAL reason we all come together in relationships
   

• Some simple ideas you can apply in your life right now about healthy ways to deal with the pain or trauma of your break up
   

• The biggest myth out there about how to deal with your broken heart and the consequences you'll have to deal with if you buy into this myth
   

• Some tricks for dealing with the fear and low self-esteem that come as a result of your relationship breakup or divorce
   

• The best ways to deal with the pain caused by fear of failure after your break-up or divorce
   

• How you can reduce or get rid of the self-deprecating thoughts after a break up or divorce
   

• What to do if you are feeling like a failure because of the divorce or breakup 
   

• How to replace pain with possibility and positive thoughts after a relationship breakup or divorce
   

• How you can understand why you may have stayed too long
   

• Ways to readjust to not having that person in your life anymore
   

• The single biggest mistake you should not make after going through a break-up or divorce if you want to heal
   

•  Practical ways to find new meaning in your life after a relationship breakup or divorce
   

•  How to deal with trying to forgive and forget when you are still hurting so much
   

•  How to see your part in the break up or divorce without beating yourself up  
   

• Why "letting go" is so essential if you are going to move from where you are now to having a happy, healthy and more joyful life
   

• The most powerful questions you should ask yourself to help you with the letting go process
   

• How you deal with all the "what ifs" and "should haves" that pop into your mind after a break-up or divorce
   

• How you stop yourself from obsessing on the idea that you could have done more to save your relationship or marriage 
   

• How to know when it's no longer beneficial to continue to dissect what went right and what went wrong
   

• How to give up the feeling that you've been robbed of your future because of the break-up or divorce
   

• How to let go of someone you thought you'd be with for the rest of your life
   

• How to get your previous partner or spouse out of your head when you are in bed trying to get to sleep 
   

• How to completely get rid of someone if you don't want them in your life anymore
   

• How to get over breaking the vow-- "till death do us part"
   

• How to get over a relationship when you still have strong feelings that that person is your soul mate 
   

• How to get over the guilt now that the relationship has ended
   

• The fastest and most efficient way to learn to forgive the other person and yourself after the break-up or divorce
   

• How to get closure if your ex won't talk to you
   

• How to know if it's healthy for you to stay in touch with your ex after your break-up
   

• How to make a clean "break" and also remain "friends" after a break-up or divorce
   

• How to explain the break-up to your children and deal with their feelings  
   

• How to deal with the fear of the unknown while keeping optimistic and confident about your future after a break-up or divorce
   

• The single biggest thing you'll need to do in order to move on after a break up or divorce 
   

• How to get clear about what you want for a new relationship
   

• How long to wait after a break-up or divorce to get into another relationship  
   

• How to keep past hurts from ruining a new relationship  
   

• How to maintain a good relationship with your children after the divorce or break-up
   

• How to move on when you have to deal with strained co-parenting issues 
   

• How to know that you've truly let go, moved on and found the answer to the lesson to be learned from your past relationship
   

• How to totally "be" in a new relationship without thoughts of your ex butting in 
   

• And much more...   

How to tell if this "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" Program is for you ...

This "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" system and program is for you if...you are willing to really dig down deep and do whatever it takes to heal your heart.

If you're willing to spend some quality time with yourself in introspection--if you're willing to invest some time, effort, energy and an openness to working on yourself, then our system will help you. 

This "How To Heal Your Broken Heart" program is only for people committed to moving beyond being victims and unhealthy behaviors. If you are someone who truly wants to move beyond your pain and loss, this will help.
 

"How To Heal Your Broken Heart" is NOT for you If...

If you're more interested in blaming, staying stuck and being a victim than in your own healing and moving forward--then this is probably not for you.

If you're committed to running from, hiding from the truth about your situation and your life and will go to great lengths to avoid feeling any discomfort, then this is probably not for you.